Do you struggle with self worth? Are you constantly comparing yourself to the people around you? There were days when I used to struggle with not feeling good enough for the people around me. I truly thought I wouldn’t ever feel happiness within myself again, but I was wrong.
It took me a long time to realize that I was my biggest critic and my own worst enemy. Working on self love isn’t easy, it’s something I truly believe will never be perfected but it’s worth the work. I still work on my self love, and self worth daily and I’m here to tell you how I do it. I hope these tips can help you see that you deserve all the good in the world, and you learn how to love yourself.
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Let That Shit Go
You have to know you’re not alone when going through trauma’s in life, we’ve all been there but it’s time we accept what we went through, then let it go. Keeping negative thoughts built up and letting them fester will only keep you in a bad place mentally. Whatever it is that you’ve gone through, recognize it and stop letting it take up positive space in your head. Knowing you can’t change the past is rough, but knowing you can pave an amazing future ahead has to give you some hope.
If someone else makes you feel low self worth, it’s time to recognize that and let them go. It’s time to take control over yourself and your feelings and let go of what makes you feel small. Letting go doesn’t mean you need to become hateful towards them, it just means grasping onto the fact it/they no longer hold power over you. This ‘Let That Shit Go’ journal was really fun and it never felt overbearing. It helped me and the fact it’s super affordable was a plus!
Goodbye Negative Hello Positive
It’s time to filter out the negative thoughts you have of yourself and input some positive ones.
Everyone has flaws, don’t focus on them instead focus on the good. Focus on how beautiful you are inside and out. Starting the day off with a positive thought will set the mood for the whole day, wake up and give yourself a compliment. Wake up and tell yourself It’s going to be a good day, tell yourself your hair looks good today and you slayed the shit out of your makeup. Obsess over the positive and watch the energy in and around you change.
Another negative thought to let go of is comparison. Stop comparing yourself to anyone else but the you that you were yesterday. Accept yourself for who you are and how amazing you are.
Believe In Yourself
If you’re going to talk the talk, you have to start walking the walk. Don’t just say the positive things, believe them. Look in the mirror and soak in the compliments you give yourself daily. Start believing the positive things you’re hearing about yourself from you and the people around you. The more you hear it, the more you’ll relish in it. If you feel a negative vibe coming your way brush it off with a positive one and keep going.
Pick The Right People
It’s important to surround yourself with people who love you and see you for who you really are. If the people in your circle don’t fully support you then they aren’t the right people for you. Your partner, close friends and your family have to support you when cutting negativity out and if they don’t then it’s time to cut them out too. Be around the people who are proud of you, proud to be around you and you’ll start to feel the same. Always remember you are worthy of all the good feelings and love they’re trying to give you.
Live For You
If you want to start loving yourself, you need to start living for yourself. Those small things that make you happy? Do them. Shit, do all the big things that make you happy too. Living for you isn’t selfish, it just means you love yourself enough to know you’re more important. Take chances. Live free. Buy the shoes! You only get one life to live and it’s time to live it how you choose. It took me a really long time to learn this, but once I did life never felt better.
Write It Out
Sometimes writing things out helps put them in better perspective, at least for me it does. I used to journal a lot when I was younger, I even continued to journal into my adult days during my harder times and It really helped me through them. Going back and reading what I went through made me realize how strong my past has actually made me. I came across this awesome ‘Find Your F*cking Happy’ Journal and I can’t rave enough about it. It helped me through some tough days, and helped me get some issues out of my head and onto paper.
If you don’t love the idea of writing in a journal, that’s okay still try to write and get it out. Write down five things you love about yourself and five things you’ve accomplished and just keep reading it until you find a smile come across your face.
I could go on forever, but these were the few tips that helped me. I hope if you’re struggling with self love like I use to, that these tips help you too! Remember you’re worthy of all the love in the world from the people around you but most importantly from yourself. XO